5 Powerful Steps to Overcome Feeling Stuck and Unfulfilled
I think there is this moment where a woman hits her 30's and if she's not where she thought she "should" be, something happens. She thinks there is something wrong with her. She sees herself as "unsuccessful" somehow. Its starts as a whisper, a stirring inside, until its there shouting at her saying "isn't there MORE than this?"....... the so called mid-life crisis. Sound familiar?
Believe me when I say, I get it, I've been there. That whisper became the scream I could no longer ignore - was I ALWAYS going to feel this way? Was I ever going to meet MY person? Was I ever going to figure out what I wanted to DO with my life?! Its an uncomfortable space to be in, and yet that self doubt is simply the voice within calling you to make a change, pointing you towards the life you truly deserve.
When you are feeling stuck and unhappy with where you are in life, here's my top 5 tips to get you started on the path to making long lasting change:
Take your power back by understanding you always have a choice. So many of us get to a space in our lives where we feel like we are a victim to everything that is happening to us. I know life can be hard and can thrown us curve balls, however sitting in the belief that things keep happening around you and you can't do anything about it is simply disempowering. Everything that is present in your life is a choice - you can change or pivot at any given moment. The hard truth is, you do need to take radical responsibility for where you are in life, AND in doing this, as hard as it may feel, you suddenly put yourself back in the driving seat again!
Start to pay attention to the stories you are telling yourself. This is a goodie, because in order for us to start make real lasting change in our lives we really need to get to grips with what it is thats holding us back. Listen to the voice you have in your head, what is it saying to you on a daily basis? And I mean, really listen. Write down what you hear it say. Is it criticizing you? What are the exact words it is using? Is it your own voice? Or do you hear it as someone elses? We all have that voice and most of us loathe it or push against it - I'm here to tell you to be grateful for it. Yep, you heard me. Why? Because what it is really doing is showing you EXACTLY what is standing in your way, it is literally a roadmap for you to understand where you need to get started in order to grow.
Do an HONEST audit of your life. And by honest I mean really honest. Most of us actually know where we need to make a change or why things may be feeling the way they are, and we tend to turn away from it either due to fear or shame. However in order to grow and to move from a space of feeling stuck we really need to have clarity around which parts of our lives aren't feeling optimal for us right now. Chances are you are simply spending too much time doing things that don't light you up and aren't creating space for those things that bring you joy. In other words, understand where you want to be, be honest about where you are now and then start making small steps to move closer to your ideal future.
Know your WHY. Do you want to know why most people feel stuck when it comes to going after that which they desire most? Its because their "why" isn't crystal clear in relation to that thing. I'm sure there are things in your life right now which you show up for regularly without hesitation (your job, your kids..) and my guess is you have a concrete reason for why you do. So when you think about it, the focus and doing energy is no problem when you are CLEAR on the why behind that which you desire. So the question actually becomes, why do you want it? What do it provide you that you really want?
Get support. I know we have been fed this independent woman narrative that insists we can do it all alone, and I'm here to tell you thats not true. We are human's, we were literally created to be dependent on one another, to rely on a community for support and to seek connection from those around us. Surround yourself with people who can support you in achieving your goals, find people that are already where you want to be and get their advice on how they got there. This could include friends, family, mentors, or even a coach. Having a support system provides you with encouragement and guidance that you need along the way.
Most women will go through their whole life feeling like there is more out there for them, yet never addressing it. My invitation to you is to be in the 10% that do find the courage within themselves to bravely pursue the life they truly want. Believe me when I say its possible and you absolutely deserve it!
